:: the pursuit of happiness ::

A friend of mine recently shared his feelings of 'undatableness' and not being able to grasp the concept of trusting God to bring the right person into his life. I think it's safe to say we all know exactly how he feels - myself included. Honestly though, I've got a bit of a beef with the Mr./Mrs. Right issue.

Is it just me, or are we all a little disillusioned?

I think we've idolized the whole idea, probably without ever knowing it. We're bombarded with it constantly because 'they' tell us it's the next logical thing to do. Then suddenly we start to see our singleness as a deficiency; no wonder we make it such a priority. But do we really believe that someone else could make our lives any more complete then it already is?

I know I've lead myself to believe that Prince Charming is out there somewhere looking for me, and that one day he'll come sweep me off my feet and carry me away. But the truth is, that person does not exist. And thank God he doesn't! Why would anyone be so quick to dismiss the life they already have when the goal has always been to share it with someone else?

Obviously we don't have it right, especially if God is having us repeat the same lessons over and over again. Love your God with all your heart, mind and soul. Lean not to your own understanding. The plans I have for you are to give you a hope and a future. Maybe it's time we started paying attention.

I guess what I'm trying to suggest is that perhaps our desire for such a close relationship is the same thing that's holding us back from fulfilling God's plan for our life? I'm not saying it's wrong to want it, I just saying that maybe it's time we re-focused our efforts. God is the jealous type, so wouldn't it make sense that He'd be our first love? Therefore, wouldn't it be wise to practice on the one relationship we already have?

It's not about trusting God to bring the right someone into your life. We already believe that. I think it's about enjoying the right Someone you already have in your life and sharing it with the people around you. And personally, I think that's pretty attractive.