love is a choice, an ongoing and conscious choice, we make every day of our lives. it is not a feeling... and sometimes, love is a hard choice to make.
when we feel love, what we're actually feeling is a choice we've made that allows us to feel a certain way or not. that's how we control our emotions.
"love" is something never to be confused with the feeling of being "in love".
Love is not just a feeling. It’s a choice, a commitment, a way of behaving toward another. Love is not simply an event that happens to you. Rather, love is something you choose to do. The state of being in love is simply a prelude to love. But most people make the mistake of thinking they’re one and the same thing. We are all given circumstances by which we can exercise the choice to love. That’s the thunderbolt that God supplies. It’s that instant attraction to another person, those warm, fuzzy feelings, that fever akin to drunkenness or madness that causes you to know that you’re in love. But it’s what you choose to do after that thunderbolt has passed that matters. You choose whether you’re going to continue loving the other person after the drunkenness has dissipated, after the frills of romance have fallen away. You choose whether you’re going to continue to seek the best interests of the other person, and care about him or her through any and all circumstances — and for how long. Love is a conscious choice. ~ from the novel “Midwinter Turns to Spring”
love is a choice. when you think about the one you love, you subconsciously say to yourself, "i choose to love this person today", regardless of their imperfections.
when a relationship isn't working, you choose to put an end to it. after that, given an ample time to recover, you also choose to get involved with someone who’s like-minded.
at the beginning of a potentially great relationship, you make a choice to spend time with that person to have a glimpse of what can develop. you celebrate the fact that once again, you get to love a person and get to be loved the same way in return.
unfortunately, more often then not, people believe that love is something that simply occurs and happens unexpectedly. when in fact, as a relationship grows, the definition of love also grows with it.
love is both a noun and a verb.
love as a noun is the feeling. that waking thought of someone you love first thing in the morning until the end of the day.
love as a verb are the actions you take in order to feel that way.
loving someone should be action oriented and consistent, in order for love to grow.
it's common for romantic love, or feelings, to become the basis for relationships and happiness, but it is often proven to be a hollow foundation because we later seek new emotional highs. basing a relationship solely on feelings and emotions proves to be fickle, and even more so when difficult circumstances arise.
love is a choice, it isn’t born but made.
love rings true when you decide to love someone during the tough times of a relationship, and is something to be celebrated when accomplished.
there will always be times when you feel like giving more or less love. there will always be times when you feel loved or not loved enough. when these moments present themselves, will you still choose to love?
isn’t it a more empowering way to love and be loved?
love is a choice… a choice to take action.
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
Isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
1 Corinthians 13:4
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